There’s a fine line between a healthy routine and a bad habit.
A healthy routine is a routine which benefits you. Whether you brush your teeth before your morning shower or after, simple routines can ground us in reality. Thus, helping us grow as individuals.
So, when does a healthy routine become a bad habit?
That question is both impossibly difficult and stupidly easy when you actually take a step back to observe yourself. When you make a mistake, what do you do? Do you take responsibility and vow to never again make the same mistake? Or do you look for sources outside yourself that could have caused the problem? If the latter sounds like you, then you may have developed a bad habit.
I’m not going to give you twelve rules for life. That’s not why I’m here. I’m here to tell you that Third-Wave Feminism is a bad habit. And if we feed this habit, it could mean the end of our Western culture as we know it.
Let’s face it. We’ve gone soft. We’ve become complacent within ourselves and feel as though we’re done growing as individuals. To be perfectly succinct: you are never done growing. The key to your own happiness is in what you do for yourself.
But what’s that got to do with Third-Wave Feminism and Toxic Masculinity?
Radical Third-Wave Feminists have developed the bad habit of blaming men for their shortcomings.
Don’t believe me? Let’s just take a quick look at some of the things these self-proclaimed Feminists have said.
“I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing themRobin Morgan, Editor for Ms. Magazine (1990-1993)
“Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women’s movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage.Sheila Cronin, Leader of NOW
“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.Sharon Stone, Actress
These women are so focused on punishing men for this perceived “oppression,” that they’ve lost sight of their actual goal – equality.
I’ll break down these quotes one by one.
Robin Morgan says it’s a good idea to hate men. Why? She’s the editor of a large magazine. Well, she’s blaming men because she’s scared to look at herself. She’s afraid that by stepping back and being truthful to herself, she won’t like what she sees. Many, many women feel this way. But don’t let it develop into a bad habit.
Sheila Cronin thinks marriage is slavery for women. Well, it isn’t for me, so that negates her entire platform in an instant. Abusive relationships may sometimes seem like slavery, but the only person who can save you is you. Perhaps Ms. Cronin was stuck in a violent relationship in which she didn’t know how to escape. And perhaps she’s still afraid it will happen again. But this is just an excuse to act poorly. Instead, she should stand up and fight alongside the men who share her (moral) values.
Sharon Stone, who hurt you? This is possibly the most perplexing bad habit I’ve encountered. Ms. Stone is quite a powerful woman. So, why does she feel the need to hold that power over men to hurt them? If your first inclination is to hurt someone based on their gender, that is extremely unhealthy.
These bad habits are permeating our culture at an alarmingly rapid pace. And an increase in “Women-Only” activities has stirred up some attention. When a lawyer (whose own mother died of breast cancer) was denied a hat at a race because he was male, he sued. And won. Just recently, The Statement festival in Sweden was cancelled after being found guilty of discrimination. A “Girl’s Empowerment” retreat for female firefighters was also scrubbed after a Civil Rights lawyer complained.
In a perfect world, these women would stop assuming the motivations of men they’ve never met. Men and women would work together in complete harmony. But by excluding men from their activities, these women believe it makes them more powerful. In reality, it pushes men farther away – farther into a corner where they have to cower and beg to get along with the opposite sex. By projecting their views of men upon the “Patriarchy,” these women are setting themselves up for failure. Distrust, hate, paranoia, and anger are all negative emotions which form bad habits.
Masculinity isn’t inherently toxic. Neither is femininity. But many women are becoming enraged at their shortcomings. And instead of working on themselves, they blame all men for their problems, incorrectly assuming they’re doing the right thing.
I’ll leave you now with this one last reminder. Don’t confuse anger and passion.
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Stone, K. (February 23, 2018). ‘Girls Empowerment’ Fire Camp Canceled After Civil Rights Lawyer Complains. Times of San Diego. Retrieved from https://timesofsandiego.com/life/2018/02/23/san-diego-cancels-girls-empowerment-fire-camp-after-lawyer-complains-for-dad-seeking-sons-entry/